I recently took a risk and organized a speaking event for myself so I get could get quality video and audio of me speaking.
I have this grand vision of being one of the most inspirational speakers to ever walk the earth.
If I don’t speak, it’s tough to accomplish this dream.
So I set up this event. And I learned a lot of stuff.
The primary thing I learned was also the most unexpected.
When watching my video back, I realized that I rushed through my talk. I didn’t have many “dramatic pauses” or moments when I let the audience and myself just think and process.
So, with some friends, I broke this down. I sought feedback. What is it that is causing me to rush through things rather than patiently walking through them?
And I came across this: I often find myself getting more caught up with performing, looking cool, or being awesome than with allowing a moment to make a difference for itself. And so I would rush, trying to get all of by AMAZING THINGS TO SAY out so everyone realized how brilliant I am!
I try to white knuckle it rather than letting it happen, seemingly naturally.
We all want to be “amazing,” right?
The crazy thing is this: the moment I let go of “being amazing” and instead simply create opportunities for “amazingness” to happen, that is the moment I find myself the most fulfilled.
Letting go of my need to be the hero for others allows them to be the heroes in their own lives.
And I have found that I can only do this if I pause and let everyone see the resource all around us.