A GREAT INTERVIEW QUESTION

If you are in an interview, the following question will provide clarity about your future with a company.

“What does it take to be successful here?”

This question will really help both the employer and employee think about the best way for each person to work together to create a great future with the company.

BE YOU

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When you slow down and really listen to the words “Be You” – what comes to mind?

Do you know who you are?

Do you understand your identity?

In my conversations, I find that very few people can answer this question honestly from their heart.

How do we get there? To a place where we know who we are and we can live that out with conviction, passion, and confidence?

I think we have to begin by listening to what is deep inside of us (which can feel foreign or just plain weird).

And asking: Who am I? What do I want? What do I want people to experience when they are with me? Etc.

Deep questions.

It’s helpful to have a guide. A coach.

I have done this with a number of clients over the past 6 years. The results are astounding.

People connecting with their heart and soul and begin living from that place.

It’s beautiful.

Be you.

Inadequacy is a good thing

If you are experiencing feelings of inadequacy - that is a good thing. Because you are stretching yourself beyond what your comfort zone.

If you aren’t experiencing inadequacy in your leaderhship development or other areas of your life - it’s because you are doing things that you already know how to do. But the human mind was designed for challenge, growth, and forward momentum.

Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx, speaks about how, when she was young - her father would ask her at the dinner table “What have you failed at this week?” Because for him, failing at things is what leads to success. Embracing inadequacy creates growth and progress.

She also said in an interview recently, “If I go more than 2-3 months without embarrassing myself, I get nervous.” Here is a self-made billionaire talking about seeking out ways to embarrass herself, therefore embracing her inadequacies, and learning how to further change the world in the process. 

May we follow in her steps.

The Origin of the word "Worry"

Recently I have been putting an extra emphasis of focusing my thoughts on the future and the future I want to live into.

Part of that process has been for me to notice when I believe thoughts or entertain thoughts that aren't a part of my desired future.

For example, recently I decided to study the concept of worry (so that I could find antonyms of the word in which to redirect my thoughts). 

The word "worry" was in part developed from the concept of "to harass by rough or severe treatment (as of dogs or wolves attacking sheep)."

So, after understanding in more depth, I then went on to explore antonyms and I found this: calmness, certainty, cheer, comfort, confidence, happiness, joy, pleasure, sureness, trust, unconcern, advantage, contentment, peace, reassurance.

If we can choose to focus on either worry (wolves attacking sheep) or joy, which will we choose? 

If you could consistently shift your focus to joy, would you want to know?