Inadequacy is a good thing

If you are experiencing feelings of inadequacy - that is a good thing. Because you are stretching yourself beyond what your comfort zone.

If you aren’t experiencing inadequacy in your leaderhship development or other areas of your life - it’s because you are doing things that you already know how to do. But the human mind was designed for challenge, growth, and forward momentum.

Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx, speaks about how, when she was young - her father would ask her at the dinner table “What have you failed at this week?” Because for him, failing at things is what leads to success. Embracing inadequacy creates growth and progress.

She also said in an interview recently, “If I go more than 2-3 months without embarrassing myself, I get nervous.” Here is a self-made billionaire talking about seeking out ways to embarrass herself, therefore embracing her inadequacies, and learning how to further change the world in the process. 

May we follow in her steps.

The Origin of the word "Worry"

Recently I have been putting an extra emphasis of focusing my thoughts on the future and the future I want to live into.

Part of that process has been for me to notice when I believe thoughts or entertain thoughts that aren't a part of my desired future.

For example, recently I decided to study the concept of worry (so that I could find antonyms of the word in which to redirect my thoughts). 

The word "worry" was in part developed from the concept of "to harass by rough or severe treatment (as of dogs or wolves attacking sheep)."

So, after understanding in more depth, I then went on to explore antonyms and I found this: calmness, certainty, cheer, comfort, confidence, happiness, joy, pleasure, sureness, trust, unconcern, advantage, contentment, peace, reassurance.

If we can choose to focus on either worry (wolves attacking sheep) or joy, which will we choose? 

If you could consistently shift your focus to joy, would you want to know? 

CLARITY INVITES RISK

I was talking with a client the other day. He is in a place where he feels “stuck” – unsure of what steps to take next in life.

And beyond that, he is seeings some potential risks to take but is fearful to step into them.

Have you ever been there?

You know what things you “don’t” want to be doing but aren’t sure what you “do” want to be doing?

And so risk seems a bit arbitrary.

And it occurs to you that in the midst of it all, putting in the energy to get a clear vision will take some serious mental labor.

Yet, you see that without a clarity of vision, there is no context for taking risks.

And so if you don’t put in the mental labor to get clear on your vision, you necessarily won’t know what step to take next. You will feel “stuck.”

How willing are you?