SETTING MY CAMERA DOWN

Curiosity is the ability to see life through the camera lens of another person’s “first person” view.

The choice to care about a person enough to set down your camera for a moment and see life as it is showing up for them.

1) When is the last time, in the midst of conflict or disagreement, you took a moment, paused, and were authentically curious about the experience the other person was having?

What would happen if you set your camera down?

What would happen if you responded saying “help me understand where you are coming from, I genuinely want to know…”

2) When was the last time you were curious about the thoughts in your own mind? Dan Tocchini writes, “are you curious from the inside out?”

I wonder what might happen if we were all truly curious.

I challenge you to take one hour today and just. be. curious.

“UNCONCEALING” THAT WHICH HOLDS US BACK

“Can I ask you a coaching type question?” My friend asked me as we driving across the Golden Gate Bridge.

I responded “Of course!” as I love deep conversation.

He said that he was struggling being a negative person. “I see the world more pessimistically and I feel like I am bringing my friends down.”

In that, I noticed something that he was unaware of that was holding him back.

I noticed that his comment about him being negative had a couple of implications.

1. His statement was definitive “I see the world pessimistically.” (what is concealed is that he is not responsible for his choice to be pessimistic).

2. Pessimistic or Negative are un-investigated conversations. They are intentionally concealed in being vague and used as a way to justify one’s fears and worries, etc.

So I shared my thoughts with him towards the angle that he has a choice in the matter. He is not confined to being negative. It’s a choice.

Once we “unconceal” our conversation by investigating it with curiosity, we can expose our thoughts and then alter them if we so choose.

BE A GOOD METEOROLOGIST

I have been thinking about this idea of forecasting lately.

About how the decisions we make today get us to tomorrow and eventually to 10 years from now.

If you made the decisions you will make today and each day for the next 5-10 years, do you know where they would take you?

If you approach the world a certain way today and each day for the next 5-10 years, are you aware of where that would get you?

Have you thought about the long term results that will be brought about by what you give to others (or don’t give) today?

When you see that person you are becoming in 5-10 years, do you like him or her?

What things would you change?

You may want to start today.

Annie Dillard wrote, “How we spend our days, is, of course, how we spend our lives.”

WE DON’T HAVE PEACE BECAUSE…

Being vulnerable has this incredible capacity to invite vulnerability from others, thereby creating freedom for them.

I don’t know why vulnerability exactly creates freedom. Something about just being connected to others and sharing with others – even the parts of us that we aren’t so sure about.

Reminds of the Mother Theresa quote “We don’t have peace because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”

Perhaps in our vulnerability is when we find each other again.

And we invite others to belong with us.